Honeymoon, in fact, is a planning for the life ahead in the light of past expereinces and future aspirations. It is usually said that two can get complete insight of each other when happen to travel together or when they owe or lend money.
Honeymoon is the first milestone of marital life, and for some this milestone comes a little late. Does honeymoon influence the marital life ahead? People taking honeymoon as a picnic or recreation are not hundred percent right. In fact, it is the first phase of new life.
Honeymoon: Why and what for! If you take honeymoon as a mere enjoyment, then you are mistaken. To keep the life running, it is imperative to know about its all important and auxilliary components for proper maintenance, and honeymoon serves the same purpose. The question about the age-bracket of the newly-weds honeymoon is suitable for, finds no ground. Similarly, the question about the age-bracket of the couples honeymoon is a useless outing is also out of place. Hypothesis that honeymoon is just a sensual recreation and wastage of money is also barren. One must enjoy this blissful period taking into account one’s social status and budget. Honeymoon is a blessing to relax for the couples in thirties and forties. The people who get married in twenties do need to understand their life-partners, and here honeymoon plays the trick. Honeymoon gives an opportunity to understand life, disposition, demeanour, strengths, weaknesses and experiences of life-partner. Life gets busy and tedious afterwards and occassionaly render husband and wife a leisure for romance.
Honeymoon, in fact, is a planning for the life ahead in the light of past expereinces and future aspirations. It is usually said that two can get complete insight of each other when happen to travel together or when owe or lend money. Deciding for marriage is full of romance and excitement. Marriage is usually taken as a a bed of roses but it equally is a testing and demanding commitment. Some people take honeymoon as the only period to relax by taking a break from all tensions and worries.
It also happens to us that despite spending long vacation we do not feel relaxed, which clearly means that our aspirations have not been materialized, however, there are many people who get transformed to an entirely new persona, develop flexibility in behaviour and try their utmost to keep the life-partner happy so that life may become more enjoyable and romantic than becoming difficult and burdensome. Sometimes moments of leisure do the trick and invigorate the marital life. Some people anticipate happy life by the flexibility in partner’s behaviour.
Husband and wife, both are supposed to decide the destination place for honeymoon. Conflicts do arise when husband all alone decides a destination place. It is imperative to adopt democratic attitude in life for, even children these days want to dress up after their heart. Then how come husbands forget likes and dislikes of wives in just the beginning of a new life. Wife must take into account the financial position of her husband while expressing her heart for honeymoon plan.
Honeymoon helps understanding: Some marriages fall a prey to difficulties during honeymoon. People, then, start blaming their fortune instead of rectifying themselves and being compromising and flexible. Nor do people try to expect less from life-partner. Some marriages suffer debacle after ten to twelve years of companionship and even continuous conselling bears no fruit. But it can not be concluded that after spending a perfect honeymoon in prime age and a decade together, differences and conflicts can not arise.
Some husbands demand that after marriage a wife should wear what pleases to her husband, eat what her husband wants, live to her husband’s commandments and take decisions in all affairs, though minor or major, as per her husband’s directions. You would have noticed in Pakistani upper and lower middle class familes that in-laws compel their beloved daughter-in-law to live and subscribe to their norms. And the daughter-in-law, on the other hand, who expresses her mind about the affairs, though how petty may be, is disliked.
There must be many things in practice. For example, daughter-in-law just only be given a suggestion that she looks beautiful in certain colour; rest should be left to her. In-laws should help her leading life to her heart.
Honeymoon provides an opportunity to understand each other because none of us can act all the time. We have to show up our real-self. Some people are reticent while others, talkative. So, during honeymoon the talkative partner requires the reticent partner to speak up and remain engaged in talks. But this miracle cannot happen in a flick of fingers. The reticent partner must be given time. It is nothing to get confused about. Shopping should not be a primary thing during honeymoon. But there is no harm in buying gifts for friends and family if time and budget allow. Buying gifts for others is a token of your love for them.
